Sunday, June 30, 2013

Lessons from the Red-Winged Blackbird

God and I have a special thing with red-winged blackbirds.  I love their bold markings and coloring, and I feel the slightest bit like a real bird watcher when I can point them out to my sons and other captive audience-type people.  I even downloaded an app so I could learn to recognize their calls, as well as the calls of other local birds.

God seems especially fond of speaking to me through them at Oil Belt Christian Camp’s Ladies’ Day weekends, where I am on the planning team.   One year, as I was driving to the camp to help with the prep, I was freaking out.  I was teaching a workshop and performing a skit and helping with decorations.  I’d spread myself a little thin.  As I turned down one of the country roads to reach the camp, there was a field of corn stubble on my left.  Perched on top of one of the corn stalks was a red-winged blackbird.  I drove very slowly down the road, and I watched as he flew a little way, landed on another stalk, waited for me to catch up, flew a bit more, landed on a stalk, waited for me again, all the way to the end of the field.  I felt like God was telling me He was there with me, that I should give my anxiety to Him and it would all work out fine (which it did).

A couple of years later I was heading up to camp, only this time I was feeling good about the skit and purposed to worship during the entire drive.  I saw one blackbird, then another, then two more.  I laughed and told God that now He was just showing off.  I spotted two more for a total of six red-winged blackbirds.  I was feeling loved on by God, and Ladies’ Day went very well that year. 

On the way home from that weekend I noticed a break in the clouds in the shape of a heart.  I remembered something John Eldredge had said about God loving on him by giving him hearts of all kinds—rocks, clouds, even animal poop.  I wanted to see the heart shape for as long as I could, so I would glance up and then quickly back to the mostly-deserted highway.  As the clouds were changing and the break disappearing, I looked back at the road in time to see a red-winged blackbird swoop down in front of my car!  OH NO!  I was just sure I hit him.  I felt TERRIBLE!  I had destroyed my special gift from God!  However, when I got home my car didn’t show any evidence that I had actually hit him.  I do hope God spared the bird from my distractedness.  

This year at Ladies’ Day my friend and fellow planner Mary rode to camp with me, and so instead of watching for blackbirds on the drive up, I gabbed with her.  I didn’t see any birds the whole work day or that evening.  The next day, I was the last gal on the planning team to leave the dorm.  As I approached the outside door I silently lamented that I hadn’t seen any red-winged blackbirds this time.  I had taken about three steps out of the door when it happened.  I didn’t see a red-winged blackbird, but I heard its call.  I smiled, praised God, and knew that the day was going to be wonderful.  God was at Ladies’ Day, working behind the scenes.

God has used these beautiful birds, and the simplicity of our encounters, to teach me some valuable truths.  The first year, He used the blackbird to show that He is always with me as well as ahead of me.  He is leading me, inviting me, and if I fall too far behind He will wait on me so we can continue together.

The next year He showed me that He is an extravagant God who loves to lavish gifts on His beloveds.  He also reminded me that, as Jesus healed each person in a different way, He speaks to each of His beloveds in a different way, intimately, to the farthest reaches of our hearts.  The way He speaks to John Eldredge is not the way He speaks to me, and it won’t be the way He speaks to you. 

This year He showed me that even though I may not see Him, I can and do hear Him.  This is opening all new doors for me, and is a process I am enjoying pursuing.  

I love that as our relationship continues to grow, I continue to experience Him in new ways. I can hardly wait until next year's Ladies' Day to discover all He has for me through the red-winged blackbird.  

Wednesday, March 6, 2013

It's ALL About Love


Fill in the blank of this famous song:

They will know we are Christians by our ____________.
A) WWJD Bracelets    B) Picket Signs    C) Politics    D) Love

I REALLY hope you know the correct answer is D) Love.  Unfortunately, many Christians show everything BUT love.

Why is this?  What happened to love, to OUR love?  How was it replaced with malice, envy, selfishness, pride, and self-righteousness?  Aren’t we, above all things, supposed to show God’s love to the world?  So why don’t we?   

Here’s what I’ve discovered:

Jesus replied, “‘LOVE the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: ‘LOVE your neighbor as yourself.” (Matt 22:37-39)*   LOVE God.  Not obey, not serve, not worship, although those are important, but first and foremost we must LOVE God.

A new command I give you: LOVE one another.  As I have loved you, so YOU MUST LOVE one another.  By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you LOVE ONE ANOTHER.” (John 13:34-35)  Jesus loves us and He loves them, therefore we must love.  Not scold, not judge, not disrespect, not shun, not diminish, not vilify.  Not even serve or tolerate or encourage, although those are important.  Love others.  Just do it.  Period.  It’s not a suggestion, not an option.  It’s a command.  

Paul goes so far as to say: “Do everything in love. (1 Cor 16:14)  Not some things, not convenient things, not important things, but EVERY thing.

We are designed to love, to give love and receive love, to love God, to love our fellow man.  We are motivated by love, changed by love, healed by love.  Yet we often don't live it.  

I’m going to go out on a limb here and say that if we don’t love, if we are not consciously making an effort to speak in love, to think in love, to listen in love, to obey in love, to BE love--first, foremost and above all--then don’t even bother.  We will do more harm than good.  If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but DO NOT HAVE LOVE, I am ONLY A RESOUNDING GONG or a CLANGING CYMBAL.   If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but DO NOT HAVE LOVE I AM NOTHING.  If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but DO NOT HAVE LOVE, I GAIN NOTHING.” (1 Cor 13:1-3)  Without love, we are nothing.  Not even very little.  We are nothing without love.

What does love look like?  For I was hungry and you gave me something to eat, I was thirsty and you gave me something to drink, I was a stranger and you invited me in, I needed clothes and you clothed me, I was sick and you looked after me, I was in prison and you came to visit me.  (Matthew 25:35,36)  Love looks like kindness, caring, nurturing, providing.  It looks like and is sacrifice.  Food costs money.  Nurturing and caring cost vulnerability and compassion.  Providing costs convenience and comfort.  Love costs time and often pain. Is this what our lives, our DAILY lives, look like? 

Whom are we to love?  I tell you, LOVE YOUR ENEMIES and pray for those who persecute you. (Matt 5:44)  It’s easy to love those who love us.  We must love beyond the easy and expected to the difficult and unexpected.  We must love the unlovable.  Period.

Here’s the kicker:  Love is impossible.  It’s impossible because we cannot love enemies and persecutors on our own.  Oh, sure, we can mostly love our spouse and kids pretty well, maybe our families and our friends, but real love, perfect love, true love, is beyond our human capabilities.  Only God can fill our hearts with his love, and He longs to.  I WILL GIVE you a NEW HEART and put a new spirit in you; I WILL REMOVE from you your heart of stone and give you A HEART OF FLESH. (Ezekiel 36:26) 

How do we know if we are living God’s love?  Here’s the Gold Standard Checklist.  Insert your name in the blank:  __________ is patient.  __________ is kind.  _________ does not envy.  __________ does not boast.  __________ is not proud.  __________ does not dishonor others.  __________ is not self-seeking.  __________ is not easily angered.  __________ keeps no record of wrongs.  __________ does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth.  __________ always protects.  __________ always trusts.  __________ always hopes.  __________ always perseveres.  __________ never fails.  (1 Corinthians 13:4-8) 

Ah.  I hear a few Ouches.  I felt some, too.  We all have areas needing improvement.  God can improve us, heal us, help us to love as He loves.  We must let Him. 

My friends, this is a call to arms—to open arms.  To tender hearts.  Now is the time to get rid of anger, rage, malicious behavior, slander, and dirty language.   Don’t lie to each other…  Put on your new nature… you must clothe yourselves with tenderhearted mercy, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience.  Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you... Above all, CLOTHE YOURSELVES WITH LOVE, which binds us all together in perfect harmony. (Colossians 3:8-14)

Above all, love each other deeply, because LOVE COVERS OVER a multitude of sins. (1 Peter 4:8)  Love not only covers our sins, but theirs as well.  It is the most powerful force in the Universe. 

And if we love as God loves?  What then?  "No eye has seen, no ear has heard, no mind has conceived what God has prepared FOR THOSE WHO LOVE HIM.” (1 Corinthians 2:9)  That sounds pretty good, doesn’t it?

So yes, they will know we are Christians by our love: Our love for the unlovable.  Our love for the sandpaper people we all are (anyone ever rub you the wrong way?).  Our love for the poor, the rich, the victim, the perpetrator, the politically-opposite, the hostile, the abused, the abuser, the friend, the enemy.  Not with our love but with HIS Love, which He will generously give if we but ASK, RECEIVE and then CHOOSE TO GIVE.

It’s a win-win all the way around.  LOVE, my friends.  LOVE.    

*All emphases mine